This is a key phrase for understanding the Goulds' marriage, both psychologically
and in its allegoric meaning as the marriage of material progress and altruism.
As mentioned in an earlier note
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materialism requires altruism precisely to hold its "best feelings,"
i.e., the faith that it actually elevates mankind. Without this faith, material
progress stands revealed as nothing but a quest for power, another conquering
dream-ideal like any other, with a peculiarly barren and inorganic character.
This is why the barren, driven, repressed materialist Charles requires Emily,
and why, having half-admitted it, he feels emotions of "gratitude and tenderness."
On her side, Emily, who has just "relented" in her opposition to
material progress -- who has come up against her need for it -- is gladdened
to realize that it needs her too. The balance of power in their relationship
is thus restored.